Wednesday, 15 February 2017

Boss vs Bossy

Someone once asked me, "You know when men lead a company or organization, we call them boss right?"

"Yela, everyone knows that"

"Then what should we call if a woman is in charge of that?"

"Err.. a female boss kan? Lady boss!"

"Nope. Bossy!"

Urgh this boy!

Dear people, as a very spirited young lady, I would strongly warn you guys not to say that. We are not bossy. We are just doing better job than what you guys do. Hiks.

Oh btw, I accept classy but no, not bossy. NEVER.

Bossy define women and women define bossy. Is that so easy for people to agree with this statement? What shocked me the most is there's quite a number of women themselves agree to this. Even an unemployed women (mostly housewives) being called bossy tho. What do we do wrong? :(

In this globalization era, bossy women are being acknowledged for their feminism and bossy actually becomes part of women's attractiveness. I personally think that being bossy is a need in women's life. There's already many female leaders out there who actually succeeded in proving so many people that women can lead and become reliable at particular point of view. I know there's still many things that limit females on lead but at least, we are already out from the phase of  'men lead women follow' that hit females' limit all the time.

As for me, the main reason for women to be a bit bossy is because we want to unleash the burden of being walked all over. No one loves being taken for granted right? Because it is super upsetting. Same goes to women's determination. Do not look down at women's tendency upon success. Back then, if you do poll or voting asking whether women deserves to be leaders or followers.. I would say 75 percent of them would most likely vote for followers. But no, not today. Women have reached another level where they can survive on their own.

Furthermore, a bossy women nowadays caught the eyes of many men out there! Bossy women seems independent and be able to make wise decision with their first class mindset. We are human. We are not perfect and we need somebody who can help us in decision making, and care for us with different roles and also a great multitasker at times.

As a female mainly being bossy makes you look annoying to certain person but if you tend to choose friendly work environment with your employees, I still believe that being a bit bossy is a need. Bossy is essential to create an effective working conditions that will enhance work performance. Is there anyone who would believe me if I say bossy is a talent? Yes. A talent that should not be wasted for you to become a high competence leader in the future.







15 comments:

  1. Bossy nampak macam tak elok pulak... tapi bos perempuan panggil bos pun ok kot...

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  2. agreed. i've experienced that situation before. :)

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    1. Kita mmg tak boleh lari dgn gelaran bossy tu kan sis ;)

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  3. kadang susah bila ada yang tak faham. kita nak upgrade bg semua rasa keselesaan. tp kadang lain yang diassume kan2...

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    1. Betul tu. Glad you feel the same way :)

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  4. I'm with you on this. I honestly think that women would do a better job than men. Kadang kadang lelaki ni memang kena disuruh baru nak buat kerja. Tapi dia panggil kita 'bossy' pulak -.-

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    1. Kita kena bossy sikit so that kerja settle cepat kan but idk why la lelaki kalau disuruh buat kerja tup tup dah siap hahahaha

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  5. Bossy is okey kalau kena pada tempat. Haha
    Tapi, kalau melebih-lebih memang panas jugak. :P

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    1. Haha betul. Tak sanggup kalau bossy melampau

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  6. Bossy brings a negative connotation. Like when you ask someone to take things for you "hey, go and take that for me". That's bossy. For me, a leader is someone who knows how to direct his/her staff very well. For example; "would you mind to get me the file behind you?". It's true that being a boss means you can ask your staff to do anything but there are many ways and approach to do it right. In my opinion, I think that female leaders tend to be influenced with their emotions when they lead an organization. That's why most people said that female bosses are bossy. However, there are also a lot of male leaders who are very detailed and bossy. It depends on the individual itself, we can't generalize people. huhuhu terpanjang pulak btw singgah dan follow blog awak ya. jemput melawat blog saya jika berkelapangan :)

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    1. Wahhh intipati yg sgt berguna! Thank you :) so true. I, myself agree mmg females tend to be influenced w emotions most of the time but ada kala females can control their emotions well but tak boleh avoid certain ppl from setp over their head. Tq again for dropping by and followed here :)

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  7. Mungkin bos perempuan lebih cerewet dan perfectionist, tapi bukan bossy. Macam Syed cakap ni lah, bossy tu jenis mengarah tak tentu pasal, dan perangai ni ramai bos ada tak kira jantina. Hahah.

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    1. Haah cerewet tu ye memang female bosses mostly ada this side but kadang kadang tak sedar kan :) sebab females mostly teliti..

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  8. haii awak. jom join segmen ni http://shahirahsarmy.blogspot.my/2017/02/segmen-follow-me-februari-2017-my-first.html untuk tambah follower

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